Generally i am not used to watching movies which includes lots of speech like in Tough Guise. Maybe it is my fault but i am generally feel bored.
However in Tough Guise, Jackson Katz explaining his ideas very fluently and he is mentioning lots of interesting point. So i watched it easily two times. I took notes. Discussed it with my mother. And tried to observe Katz's opinions in daily life.
Here are my observations.
Firstly i realized i totally accepted this motto in my daily life: " A real man must be tough, strong and serious."
But i am not sure that media injected this motto to me. I think it is coming from olds. You know from my blog, i like to make connections between courses and this time i want to use my SPS and biology knowledges :).
Man and woman created different i think. Brain types, body types are really different. For example: Man cannot carry his children in his body for 9 months and i think it brings clear differences between woman and man. Woman learn to be altruistic,clemency and detail-oriented. Being pregnant is just little example. Another example is about hormanal situations. We learnt couple of hormanes which is effecting gender specialities at biology. Estrojen,progestin,testosterone, LTH, LH.... This hormones are also effecting brain activities of human-beings.
To sum up, woman and man are not the SAME.
Women are more emotional,niggling and altruistic.
This maybe created the division of labour (SPS keyword :D). Testosterone made mans more musculer. So they went for hunt and women were at the shelter for organizing and work on the details.
But how this physical strongness of man turned to violence?
I have a thesis about this too. Man always excepted to go out, for work, hunt, however. So for protecting theirselves they put on "tough guise"...
For example, imagine a family who has got two childrens . One is boy and one is girl. They need to bread for dinner. But it is little bit late and it is dark outside. Will they send the boy or girl?
The boy. And the girl will expected to help to tidy up the table or help for meal.
Maybe, the boy will feel scared at outside, for example when he will see a dangerous stranger walking through to him. What he will do?
From this situations boys are learning to be look like tough,strong and self-confident for protecting theirselves.
And when i come to my question at first:
But how this physical strongness of man turned to violence?
I think it is coming from extra-ordinary situations in Turkey. Childrens who hasn't got a family, who have to live in streets . They turn this toughness, strengthness to violence for improving their skills to survive!
In Tough Guise they said not only not-educated and psycho types are commiting crime. Popular guys, succesful and happy guys are commiting crime too. But is it true to generalize? I think they are not deciding to use violence in one day. It must be past maybe not showed by newspapers. Can we discuss this? I am looking forward to hear your opinions. I am confused. Because i have never seen so much in newspapers in Turkey that happy guys commiting crime suddenly. There is always dark history of childhood or a part of life, back of violences.
Why people wants to commit a crime while everything is going well?
I'm glad you found the film so interesting. I have seen it more than 10 times and still enjoy it.
ReplyDeleteI don't quite know what you mean by "niggling", this might be a translation problem... :)
In any case, I don't agree that women are more emotional than men. I just feel that women are given more permission by society to express their feelings. Once you see behind the "tough guise", you find that men cry, have fears and insecurities, etc. My own father is a real "tough guy" on the outside, but very sensitive inside, and my husband is similar. I am far less outwardly emotional than my husband, in fact. I am also not the slightest bit altruistic. My mother is also not an emotional person.
I find Turkish people to be very emotional compared to people in our culture, especially the men. Every time I turn on a Turkish programme, there is someone crying (often a "baba"), whether it's a drama, a reality show or even Var Mısın, Yok Musun!! (this last one is truly unbelievable!) To be honest, this kind of emotional display always makes me feel slightly sick. We can also see it on the Turkish news every night - people screaming and crying and pulling at their hair, not to mention all the street protests that often turn violent. Although I think it's healthy for people to express their emotions, it is possible to go over the top... :)
Dear Sonja,
ReplyDeleteHere is my source for repairing some of my lacking vocabulary: www.sozluk.net
I wrote there : "detaycı"(cares about details) it gave me the word: "niggling".
I think it is not very-quailificated source. I am sorry ,i will control it next time from google as you said this wednesday in the lecture.
Thank you for awaking.
Sesli Sözlük can be used as a starting point, but you should always use it in conjunction with an English dictionary.
ReplyDeleteThe real issue here is whether you intended your definition to be positive or negative. 'Niggling' is quite negative, and it isn't normally used to describe someone's character. If you type 'definition: niggling' into Google, it will bring up a list of dictionary definitions.
Perhaps you intended it to be negative, though?
If not, you could use 'detail-oriented', 'observant', for example.
I understand, so my way of using the word is wrong. I didn't want to be negative, so i am changing it to detail-orient in my post and writing it to my vocab-notebook. Thank you Sonja!
ReplyDeleteAs I was doing my last exercises for exam today, I knew that your blog would help me. And it is helping Ayşe! Thank you. You write about very interesting details form past topics, I can't comment individually but still I liked them all : )
ReplyDeleteFor this post, I'm very happy that you connect the 'masculunity abusement' of men to the SPS topics. I was also very interested with the fact, how male dominated societies evaluate. From one of social studies researchers point of view; invention of the plouge is the reason that women had to stay at home occupy with less muscular work. However before plouge, women were also working in the fields with men cause their strength were enough for hoe. But plouge needed even animal force, which can be controled easily by men.
So, resercher connects the point that some countries lost their boundries between agricultural and industrial revalutions and fail to step up to industrial world, and keep the cultural motifs of agrarian societies.
I think turkey is a good example if we take a deeper look in daily life.(Tough.. you don't need to look that much deep, go outside and wander around the streets or basicly turn on your TV. : ) )
We are peasants working in factories and living in cities!!
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Serra
Waovv, I am really happy about you searched my blog before essay.
ReplyDeleteAs a SPS ADP instructor your knowledge enlightened me. I am taking notes about plouge now. I didn't know it before.
Thank you.
See you,